In each persons life there are incidents that cause a great change in how they think, in how they feel, and in how they see the world. Sometimes something great can come out of a tragedy, as if God were playing a cosmic game of billiards and attempting a six-wall bank shot.

There is a love story I can think of that paints a perfect picture of what I'm referring to. A friend of mine recently survived the death of his sister. He had been in love with a girl for quite some time, but there was one small complication: she was dating his best friend. And had been for several years.
The tragedy sparked something inside him. He realized that life was to short to wait, and how much time he had been wasting. He decided he needed to tell her how he felt; the feelings he had could no longer be kept inside. Thinking it was impossible that they would ever get together he sought her out and bared his soul. He was fully expecting her to tell him that they could never be together, that she didn't care for him in "that way".

They are now one of the happiest couples I know.

But I wonder why we have to wait for something significant to happen in our lives to alter our point of view? So many times people want to tell somebody something only to decide that it can wait, or they want to "wait for a better time". How many people have we hurt in the past and not known about it, or allowed foolish pride to prevent us from making amends? How much time is wasted waiting for some sort of motivation?

I think of this now because several years ago I had a major event happen in my life, at this time of year. It makes this season a very special time for me. It is a season of joy, forgiveness, and of offering thanks. A time when I look back and review what I've done, and try to reassess my goals. It is a time for me to review my past and use that to make a better future.

Perhaps we shouldn't wait for some event in our lives to push us into doing what we know is right. What is so awful about taking a moment to call someone and tell them you're sorry? Even if you don't believe you're in the wrong then contacting the offending party to try and work things out isn't going to make things any worse. And it could help a great deal.

Give it a try. If there is something in your life that you feel needs said call that person and tell them. Write to me & I'll put the results on my web page (if you so desire, of course).

What do you have to lose?

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